Girlfriends want to know that you’re interested in her as a person. Avoid polar yes or no questions that make her feel like she’s being administered a polygraph test.
Childhood Memories: Sharing memories from childhood can be a great way to bond with her. This could include funny prepubescent stories or embarrassing playground disasters.
1. Coffee shops
Many girls like to hang out in coffee shops, especially those that are near a college. They come here to study or meet up with friends. It’s not always the easiest place to start a conversation, but it is not impossible.
The key is to be indirect. For example, you could ask her about the book she’s reading. This way, you can keep the conversation light and fun instead of focusing on your own interests.
It’s also a good idea to bring up your shared surroundings. This can help you avoid topics that might be too deep for your current discussion and allows you to build rapport with her by talking about something you both share a passion for. Also, be sure to avoid polar yes or no questions, as these will quickly derail the conversation.
2. Restaurants
If you’re a guy who loves to eat out, you’ve probably got a lot of restaurant-related things to talk about with girls. But remember to keep the conversation moving forward — not backward! Avoid polar yes or no questions that make people feel as though they’re being interrogated.
Asking about her hobbies can also be a great way to get the conversation going. If she likes what you say, she’ll be more likely to ask you for more details and open up.
Girls love talking about their family, too. It can make you both laugh, especially if you have some funny family stories to tell. You can even compare notes on your respective families’ favorite foods and activities. Talking about movies and music can help keep the conversation afloat as well.
3. Bars
Bars can be very challenging for guys because the conversation usually does not flow easily. There are gaggles of people and loud music and the type of conversation you would normally have in a coffee shop will not work here.
Girls who are out at the bar are usually in a sociable mood and like to chat. The trick here is to get proximity to the girl that you are interested in, but not too close as it may scare her off.
If she is seated by the bar you can ask her to buy her a drink as an excuse to start a short conversation. Don’t hang on to her if she wants to talk to her friends or leave and don’t insult her for walking off, just let her go and she might come back wanting to talk more.
4. Nightclubs
Nightclubs are some of the most challenging places to interact with girls. They often feature loud music that drowns out conversation, a lot of horny drunk guys, and short escalation windows.
If you’re a beginner at picking up girls, I recommend avoiding clubs until you’ve got your basics down. It’s not uncommon for beginners to get rejected by 9 out of 10 women they approach in a club.
However, if you learn to respect the curve, and have powerful body language, clubs can be an excellent place to meet girls. I recommend entering a club early in the night when people have just arrived and it isn’t as crowded. Then move around to different floors throughout the evening, keeping things “fresh.” This will increase your chances of success with women.
5. Sports bars
Sports bars are great places to interact with girls because they often have a lot of young women who like to watch sports. Moreover, sports bars often serve food and drinks which makes them a convenient place to hang out.
If you want to start a conversation with a girl, try to make it as interesting as possible. For example, if she is interested in music, you can mention the bands or songs that you both enjoy. It’s also important to remember that women are very sensitive and are easily offended by negative body language.
Aside from being a fun place to meet people, owning a sports bar is a good way to make money. However, you should ensure that you’re scheduling preventative maintenance to avoid equipment failures.